If we don’t get respect in the workplace, we tend to think it’s the fault of others who don’t see our marvelous qualities. However, it just might be a problem that we create ourselves – and that can be fixed by implementing five changes to your approach.

The changes are taken from the book “Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office” by Lois Frankel.

1. If you talk like a kid, expect to get treated like a kid. Anyone whose language is peppered with terms such as “like,” “ya know,” “um” and “totally awesome” is someone who screams, “Don’t respect me!”  Mature-adult language will get you a seat at the grown-ups’ table. 

2. If you dress like a kid, expect to get treated like a kid. Looking like you’re hangin’ out at the dorm is OK, if you’re hangin’ out at the dorm. We all want to think that looks don’t matter, and we all know that they do. Dress any way you want, but don’t expect others to look up to you if your style is “ultra-casual.” 

3. Don’t meet expectations – exceed them. Many of us fall into the trap of thinking that if we toil at an “acceptable” level, we’ll get noticed and respected. We won’t. 

Respect grows out of exceeding expectations and surprising people with your capabilities. Your boss needs that report by Wednesday? Have it done by Tuesday. Once you get in that mindset, you’ll see a thousand different ways you can surpass what’s expected – and gain respect. 

4. Ask for advice. Some fear this approach because they think it’s a sign of weakness; in fact, it’s a sign of strength. It shows you’re confident and wise enough to know others might have knowledge you don’t have. 

5. Share the credit. You’ve had a success? Great. Now let everyone know who helped you, even those who played the smallest of parts in the success. And don’t forget to thank them in person, too.

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