Most leaders want to give feedback that helps employees do better. Unfortunately, many give feedback that makes employees feel worse about themselves and their work.
In fact, feedback – even if you call it “constructive” – almost always reduces employee engagement, according to Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson, coauthors of You Can Change Other People.
It’s understandable, considering leaders have to point out shortcomings and weaknesses. That naturally puts employees in an uncomfortable, defensive position.
“Telling people they are missing the mark is not the same as helping them hit the mark,” the authors say in their Harvard Business Review research.
But there are ways to deliver feedback that removes the uncomfortable barriers and helps employees grow. Here are the research-proven strategies.
Shift from critic to ally
An ally in improvement is far better than a critic of performance. So it’s important to step into employee feedback as an ally.
- Step 1: Empathize. If employees are struggling, acknowledge that it must be difficult or frustrating to face that every day.
- Step 2: Build confidence. Tell employees you believe they have the ability to handle the situation.
- Step 3: Get permission. Ask if they are willing to think with you about the situation and what to do.
Go straight to the outcome
When employees give permission to look at the situation and explore fixes, you might be tempted to review the “problem.” Don’t!
The authors say that’s just getting back into bad feedback. Instead, focus on the “energizing future” they can create.
Ask, “What’s the outcome you’re going for here?”
Then give them the space and time to explain what they’re trying to achieve or overcome for themselves, and the organization. Help them turn that into an outcome that’s positive, clear and meaningful.
Look for hidden opportunities
Once you’ve hashed out the ultimate outcome, you can go back to the problem. But you don’t have to address it as something that needs to be solved.
Instead, now you can frame it as the thing that might help them reach the energizing outcome. Perhaps it offers an opportunity to practice a new behavior. Or maybe it points to a larger (or even smaller) underlying issue that needs attention – and that attention will dissolve issues.
Create a ‘Level-10 Plan’
With a “problem” in the rear view and sights set on the solution, you can work together on a plan of action to reach it.
You might set up steps, goals and regular check-ins that gradually move the employee toward the goal.
And you can gain commitment to the plan by asking, “On a scale of 1-10, how confident are you that you’ll execute the plan successfully?”
The answer will likely be a resounding “10” because the employee helped create the plan and imagine the future. And that’s where you get the term “Level-10 Plan.”
While it’s important for the employees to successfully change or adapt, it’s also critical they follow through on the plan, assess the results and continually move forward.
